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How to Be Less Emotionally Reactive in Your Relationship

Nhat Pham

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Emotional reactivity is a common challenge in relationships, often leading to misunderstandings, conflicts, and even long-term damage to the bond between partners. Learning how to manage and reduce emotional reactivity can significantly improve the quality of your relationship, fostering a more supportive, understanding, and harmonious connection. This article explores the nature of emotional reactivity, its impact on relationships, and practical strategies for becoming less emotionally reactive.

Understanding Emotional Reactivity

Emotional reactivity refers to the tendency to respond to stimuli — whether it’s a partner’s words, actions, or external events — with immediate, intense emotions. These reactions often bypass logical thinking and are driven by deep-seated emotional triggers, often rooted in past experiences, unmet needs, or insecurities.

Common manifestations of emotional reactivity include:

  1. Anger Outbursts: Exploding in anger over seemingly minor issues, often without fully understanding why you’re so upset.
  2. Defensiveness: Reacting defensively to any form of criticism or perceived attack, even when the other person has no ill intent.
  3. Withdrawal: Shutting down emotionally and physically…

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